I know that we can all be friends....Can we?
Saturday, September 25, 2010/3:05 pm
Im one of those who are grateful and appreciative to a few closer friends, than one who is all out to please everyone else.
A friend mentioned this before ,"Those who are your real true friends will not misunderstand your words or intention. Becos they know what kind of a person you are and will understand you in whatever circumstance."
I now truelyunderstand this knowledge.
It's really easy to make friends.
But it's more difficult to keep friends close to you.
Apart from similar characters or interest, close friends must have that mutual understanding to remain as friends.
Friends do squibble and in turn fall out with each other at times.
But true friends will let bygones be bygones and move on to the nxt phase thru understanding and accomodation.
Constant and occasional meet-ups and catching up sessions also strengthen bonds between the human kind.
There are certain things I will share with closer friends which I will not share with a not-so-close friends.
With my close friends, I feel comfortable to talk about anything and everything, and even pouring out my grievences.
I remember some time last yr when my family dealt with a mishap, the ppl I told my prob to, are those whom I know will stand by me and will not look down on me.
(You know who you are, and Im really thankful for standing by me, comforting me, during those trying periods)
Those are the close friends whom I will understand their plight if they mention that they are busy with work thus unable to meet for dinner.
And I always make it a point to meet for friends birthdays as it is a joyous gathering, catching up session and a simple reason to meet after soooo long.
I realise that as we grow up into the working society, we grow to understand more things and ppl, thus bringing us to a level where we grow out of the immaturity stage during our teenage light years.
How we perceive ppl or ppl's actions are also clearer as our mindset changes.
And now, I've become clearer and more bent on filtering out closer friends and those not-so-close friends.
Beocs I know that my close friends will not say/do things that hurt me.
They will understand me and will love me for who I am, vice versa.
Not-so-close friends are those whom I still will have catching up sessions with them, but will take a step back in revealing confidential stuff and stuff that im not comfortable in revealing.
Question is: Is it an OBLIGATION to reveal sth to a not-so-close friend, when you are not even comfortable in revealing?
Does that "friend" have the RIGHT to feel offended in any way?
Is it silly for that no-so-close friend to kick up a big fuss about this, even when a disagreement happened YEARS ago?
Last question is: Is this "friend" even worth keeping in the first place?
Honestly, what goes thru my mind about this "friendship" is utter disappointment, imaturity, over-sensitivity, an absolute lack of EQ and no respect to me.
Notice how I use the inverted commas (".......") above when I mentioned "friend"/"friendship".
Is/Are "friend/friendship" supposed to be like this?
My final note is: You need a life and start growing up. Start reflecting on your actions and quit acting like the world owes you something. Start thinking for ppl and stop living in your own world full of yourself. Begin to forgive and forget, let bygones be bygones.
Stop saying spiteful and hurtful words to friends whom you really treasure, before they all run away from you. Start giving and stop being always at the receiving end.
"He who forgives and forgets gain more in return than those who live a life full of grudges and regrets"
Frankly to me, more or less of one of such friends are no loss to me.
Cos with those few close friends, I feel as if I've got the whole world.
Im contented with just a number of close friends and dont expect any reciprocation from them.
Im glad Im gonna meet my close friends for a round of crab later for a belated bday celeb!
It doesnt have to be a posh, atas place to have a gathering.
What you need are close friends company and good food, comes along lots of laughter and gossips!
If you are not guilty, you will not be afraid of what ppl will say behind your back.
Your true friends will stand by you, understand you and accept you as a whole.
If your conscience is bugging you, beware.
Slowly one by one, all your supposedly "close friends" will be tired of giving and will soon disappear from you. As a result, you will be all lonely on joyous occasions.
That's one of a lengthy word essay.
But I was just letting out some of my thoughts.
And to my true close friends, I really appreciate the mutual understanding we share, the affinity and the accomodation between us.
The mutual respect we have for each other has brought us to a higher level of maturity.
And we will all continue to grow tgt.
Im very happy to know that as I let go of sth, I gain more things in return.
And it's becos of lost friendship that made me reflect and appreciate/rejoyce even more of what I have, than what I have lost.
Life is short, so I'll treasure what I have before me with true sincerity.
Hope you have learnt sth useful!
Time to hit the bathroom!!
A friend mentioned this before ,"Those who are your real true friends will not misunderstand your words or intention. Becos they know what kind of a person you are and will understand you in whatever circumstance."
I now truelyunderstand this knowledge.
It's really easy to make friends.
But it's more difficult to keep friends close to you.
Apart from similar characters or interest, close friends must have that mutual understanding to remain as friends.
Friends do squibble and in turn fall out with each other at times.
But true friends will let bygones be bygones and move on to the nxt phase thru understanding and accomodation.
Constant and occasional meet-ups and catching up sessions also strengthen bonds between the human kind.
There are certain things I will share with closer friends which I will not share with a not-so-close friends.
With my close friends, I feel comfortable to talk about anything and everything, and even pouring out my grievences.
I remember some time last yr when my family dealt with a mishap, the ppl I told my prob to, are those whom I know will stand by me and will not look down on me.
(You know who you are, and Im really thankful for standing by me, comforting me, during those trying periods)
Those are the close friends whom I will understand their plight if they mention that they are busy with work thus unable to meet for dinner.
And I always make it a point to meet for friends birthdays as it is a joyous gathering, catching up session and a simple reason to meet after soooo long.
I realise that as we grow up into the working society, we grow to understand more things and ppl, thus bringing us to a level where we grow out of the immaturity stage during our teenage light years.
How we perceive ppl or ppl's actions are also clearer as our mindset changes.
And now, I've become clearer and more bent on filtering out closer friends and those not-so-close friends.
Beocs I know that my close friends will not say/do things that hurt me.
They will understand me and will love me for who I am, vice versa.
Not-so-close friends are those whom I still will have catching up sessions with them, but will take a step back in revealing confidential stuff and stuff that im not comfortable in revealing.
Question is: Is it an OBLIGATION to reveal sth to a not-so-close friend, when you are not even comfortable in revealing?
Does that "friend" have the RIGHT to feel offended in any way?
Is it silly for that no-so-close friend to kick up a big fuss about this, even when a disagreement happened YEARS ago?
Last question is: Is this "friend" even worth keeping in the first place?
Honestly, what goes thru my mind about this "friendship" is utter disappointment, imaturity, over-sensitivity, an absolute lack of EQ and no respect to me.
Notice how I use the inverted commas (".......") above when I mentioned "friend"/"friendship".
Is/Are "friend/friendship" supposed to be like this?
My final note is: You need a life and start growing up. Start reflecting on your actions and quit acting like the world owes you something. Start thinking for ppl and stop living in your own world full of yourself. Begin to forgive and forget, let bygones be bygones.
Stop saying spiteful and hurtful words to friends whom you really treasure, before they all run away from you. Start giving and stop being always at the receiving end.
"He who forgives and forgets gain more in return than those who live a life full of grudges and regrets"
Frankly to me, more or less of one of such friends are no loss to me.
Cos with those few close friends, I feel as if I've got the whole world.
Im contented with just a number of close friends and dont expect any reciprocation from them.
Im glad Im gonna meet my close friends for a round of crab later for a belated bday celeb!
It doesnt have to be a posh, atas place to have a gathering.
What you need are close friends company and good food, comes along lots of laughter and gossips!
If you are not guilty, you will not be afraid of what ppl will say behind your back.
Your true friends will stand by you, understand you and accept you as a whole.
If your conscience is bugging you, beware.
Slowly one by one, all your supposedly "close friends" will be tired of giving and will soon disappear from you. As a result, you will be all lonely on joyous occasions.
That's one of a lengthy word essay.
But I was just letting out some of my thoughts.
And to my true close friends, I really appreciate the mutual understanding we share, the affinity and the accomodation between us.
The mutual respect we have for each other has brought us to a higher level of maturity.
And we will all continue to grow tgt.
Im very happy to know that as I let go of sth, I gain more things in return.
And it's becos of lost friendship that made me reflect and appreciate/rejoyce even more of what I have, than what I have lost.
Life is short, so I'll treasure what I have before me with true sincerity.
Hope you have learnt sth useful!
Time to hit the bathroom!!
I know that we can all be friends....Can we?
Saturday, September 25, 2010/3:05 pm
Im one of those who are grateful and appreciative to a few closer friends, than one who is all out to please everyone else.
A friend mentioned this before ,"Those who are your real true friends will not misunderstand your words or intention. Becos they know what kind of a person you are and will understand you in whatever circumstance."
I now truelyunderstand this knowledge.
It's really easy to make friends.
But it's more difficult to keep friends close to you.
Apart from similar characters or interest, close friends must have that mutual understanding to remain as friends.
Friends do squibble and in turn fall out with each other at times.
But true friends will let bygones be bygones and move on to the nxt phase thru understanding and accomodation.
Constant and occasional meet-ups and catching up sessions also strengthen bonds between the human kind.
There are certain things I will share with closer friends which I will not share with a not-so-close friends.
With my close friends, I feel comfortable to talk about anything and everything, and even pouring out my grievences.
I remember some time last yr when my family dealt with a mishap, the ppl I told my prob to, are those whom I know will stand by me and will not look down on me.
(You know who you are, and Im really thankful for standing by me, comforting me, during those trying periods)
Those are the close friends whom I will understand their plight if they mention that they are busy with work thus unable to meet for dinner.
And I always make it a point to meet for friends birthdays as it is a joyous gathering, catching up session and a simple reason to meet after soooo long.
I realise that as we grow up into the working society, we grow to understand more things and ppl, thus bringing us to a level where we grow out of the immaturity stage during our teenage light years.
How we perceive ppl or ppl's actions are also clearer as our mindset changes.
And now, I've become clearer and more bent on filtering out closer friends and those not-so-close friends.
Beocs I know that my close friends will not say/do things that hurt me.
They will understand me and will love me for who I am, vice versa.
Not-so-close friends are those whom I still will have catching up sessions with them, but will take a step back in revealing confidential stuff and stuff that im not comfortable in revealing.
Question is: Is it an OBLIGATION to reveal sth to a not-so-close friend, when you are not even comfortable in revealing?
Does that "friend" have the RIGHT to feel offended in any way?
Is it silly for that no-so-close friend to kick up a big fuss about this, even when a disagreement happened YEARS ago?
Last question is: Is this "friend" even worth keeping in the first place?
Honestly, what goes thru my mind about this "friendship" is utter disappointment, imaturity, over-sensitivity, an absolute lack of EQ and no respect to me.
Notice how I use the inverted commas (".......") above when I mentioned "friend"/"friendship".
Is/Are "friend/friendship" supposed to be like this?
My final note is: You need a life and start growing up. Start reflecting on your actions and quit acting like the world owes you something. Start thinking for ppl and stop living in your own world full of yourself. Begin to forgive and forget, let bygones be bygones.
Stop saying spiteful and hurtful words to friends whom you really treasure, before they all run away from you. Start giving and stop being always at the receiving end.
"He who forgives and forgets gain more in return than those who live a life full of grudges and regrets"
Frankly to me, more or less of one of such friends are no loss to me.
Cos with those few close friends, I feel as if I've got the whole world.
Im contented with just a number of close friends and dont expect any reciprocation from them.
Im glad Im gonna meet my close friends for a round of crab later for a belated bday celeb!
It doesnt have to be a posh, atas place to have a gathering.
What you need are close friends company and good food, comes along lots of laughter and gossips!
If you are not guilty, you will not be afraid of what ppl will say behind your back.
Your true friends will stand by you, understand you and accept you as a whole.
If your conscience is bugging you, beware.
Slowly one by one, all your supposedly "close friends" will be tired of giving and will soon disappear from you. As a result, you will be all lonely on joyous occasions.
That's one of a lengthy word essay.
But I was just letting out some of my thoughts.
And to my true close friends, I really appreciate the mutual understanding we share, the affinity and the accomodation between us.
The mutual respect we have for each other has brought us to a higher level of maturity.
And we will all continue to grow tgt.
Im very happy to know that as I let go of sth, I gain more things in return.
And it's becos of lost friendship that made me reflect and appreciate/rejoyce even more of what I have, than what I have lost.
Life is short, so I'll treasure what I have before me with true sincerity.
Hope you have learnt sth useful!
Time to hit the bathroom!!
A friend mentioned this before ,"Those who are your real true friends will not misunderstand your words or intention. Becos they know what kind of a person you are and will understand you in whatever circumstance."
I now truelyunderstand this knowledge.
It's really easy to make friends.
But it's more difficult to keep friends close to you.
Apart from similar characters or interest, close friends must have that mutual understanding to remain as friends.
Friends do squibble and in turn fall out with each other at times.
But true friends will let bygones be bygones and move on to the nxt phase thru understanding and accomodation.
Constant and occasional meet-ups and catching up sessions also strengthen bonds between the human kind.
There are certain things I will share with closer friends which I will not share with a not-so-close friends.
With my close friends, I feel comfortable to talk about anything and everything, and even pouring out my grievences.
I remember some time last yr when my family dealt with a mishap, the ppl I told my prob to, are those whom I know will stand by me and will not look down on me.
(You know who you are, and Im really thankful for standing by me, comforting me, during those trying periods)
Those are the close friends whom I will understand their plight if they mention that they are busy with work thus unable to meet for dinner.
And I always make it a point to meet for friends birthdays as it is a joyous gathering, catching up session and a simple reason to meet after soooo long.
I realise that as we grow up into the working society, we grow to understand more things and ppl, thus bringing us to a level where we grow out of the immaturity stage during our teenage light years.
How we perceive ppl or ppl's actions are also clearer as our mindset changes.
And now, I've become clearer and more bent on filtering out closer friends and those not-so-close friends.
Beocs I know that my close friends will not say/do things that hurt me.
They will understand me and will love me for who I am, vice versa.
Not-so-close friends are those whom I still will have catching up sessions with them, but will take a step back in revealing confidential stuff and stuff that im not comfortable in revealing.
Question is: Is it an OBLIGATION to reveal sth to a not-so-close friend, when you are not even comfortable in revealing?
Does that "friend" have the RIGHT to feel offended in any way?
Is it silly for that no-so-close friend to kick up a big fuss about this, even when a disagreement happened YEARS ago?
Last question is: Is this "friend" even worth keeping in the first place?
Honestly, what goes thru my mind about this "friendship" is utter disappointment, imaturity, over-sensitivity, an absolute lack of EQ and no respect to me.
Notice how I use the inverted commas (".......") above when I mentioned "friend"/"friendship".
Is/Are "friend/friendship" supposed to be like this?
My final note is: You need a life and start growing up. Start reflecting on your actions and quit acting like the world owes you something. Start thinking for ppl and stop living in your own world full of yourself. Begin to forgive and forget, let bygones be bygones.
Stop saying spiteful and hurtful words to friends whom you really treasure, before they all run away from you. Start giving and stop being always at the receiving end.
"He who forgives and forgets gain more in return than those who live a life full of grudges and regrets"
Frankly to me, more or less of one of such friends are no loss to me.
Cos with those few close friends, I feel as if I've got the whole world.
Im contented with just a number of close friends and dont expect any reciprocation from them.
Im glad Im gonna meet my close friends for a round of crab later for a belated bday celeb!
It doesnt have to be a posh, atas place to have a gathering.
What you need are close friends company and good food, comes along lots of laughter and gossips!
If you are not guilty, you will not be afraid of what ppl will say behind your back.
Your true friends will stand by you, understand you and accept you as a whole.
If your conscience is bugging you, beware.
Slowly one by one, all your supposedly "close friends" will be tired of giving and will soon disappear from you. As a result, you will be all lonely on joyous occasions.
That's one of a lengthy word essay.
But I was just letting out some of my thoughts.
And to my true close friends, I really appreciate the mutual understanding we share, the affinity and the accomodation between us.
The mutual respect we have for each other has brought us to a higher level of maturity.
And we will all continue to grow tgt.
Im very happy to know that as I let go of sth, I gain more things in return.
And it's becos of lost friendship that made me reflect and appreciate/rejoyce even more of what I have, than what I have lost.
Life is short, so I'll treasure what I have before me with true sincerity.
Hope you have learnt sth useful!
Time to hit the bathroom!!
about ME
I am the pastel that paints your world
Boldness is my daringness
Italic is how my imagination drifts
Underline ... go figure it out
Jernice Wong Hui Qing;
TINKERBELL
23rd Aug 1987
Virgo
Boldness is my daringness
Italic is how my imagination drifts
Underline ... go figure it out
Jernice Wong Hui Qing;
TINKERBELL
23rd Aug 1987
Virgo
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